Do things because you WANT to, not because you HAVE to! Why do I do whatever I do? This is a question worth asking, often and with awareness. The manner in which one internalises WHY they do WHAT they do, makes a huge difference to HOW they do it. Let’s take two examples that are very common: Cooking (Oh! every day! cooking!) Working for money (Oh! I have to work for my family!) For all those who do the cooking. Time and again, I come across people who complain that they “hav

Most people have felt guilty at some point of time in their lives. Guilt is about looking back at past events with remorse - when they realise that they "should" or "could" have acted differently. Sometimes, the feeling of remorse is based on inputs that are given by others, and not by self-realisation - this is when the thoughts that is imposed is that they "should" have acted differently. When this remorse comes from self-realisation, then the feeling is that they "could"

The bedrock on which one can build the foundation of a purposeful life, is to love and accept oneself exactly as one is. And this might fly immediately in the face of notions, thoughts and beliefs  that there are countless things that you need to change about yourself - from appearance and health, to thinking, attitudes, behaviours and such. And one of the most important aspects that people, maybe even you, find difficult to come to terms with is their own past behaviour! And

The dictionary meaning for responsible is given as "being the primary cause of something and so able to be blamed or credited for it." The origin of the word comes from the root respondere, which is to "respond". Maybe, simply put whether one is responsible or not depends on how one responds to the various queries and demands that are made of them. Any response or even reaction is observed as a person's behaviour. Neurology (how their brain is) has everything to do with how a

A chapter from the book that I am working on (yes, that project is still on!) deals with various emotions and levels of consciousness. And under the chapter titled "The obstacles to happiness" is a section on Arrogance. Arrogance has many synonyms - haughtiness, conceit, hubris, self-importance, egotism, sense of superiority; pomposity, high-handedness, swagger, boasting, bumptiousness, bluster, condescension, disdain, contempt, imperiousness; pride, vanity, immodesty; loftin

During the course of the work that I have been doing with my clients, I have noticed that many of my clients experience a fair degree of trouble in terms of being the best they can be, and achieve their own stated potential. And this applies to ANY aspect that I want to become better in/at. This could also be a useful approach to elegantly handling one's own ignorance and learning. The only constant in life is change, and if I am constantly learning, then I am constantly grow

My disappointments, in relationships, and otherwise, come from my expectations not being met. My expectations are based on my beliefs, past experiences, socio-economic environment, religious and cultural norms and the like. Simply put, whenever I have any disappointment, I need to go within - because what is common whatever I am upset about is ME! The most common response or reaction to disappointment is anger; other forms of disappointments are sadness, frustration, feeling

In the movie Batman vs Superman, one of the characters says, "Ignorance is not the same as innocence." And many might find this very interesting, maybe even profound. However, ignorance and innocence both denote a lack of knowledge on the part of the person in question. And whether it is considered to be  ignorance or innocence is based on how it is perceived by another person. Generally, "innocence" is considered child-like and pure and even something that people indulge t

Decide to be happy. It is in your mind! Of course that sounds whacky to some! And if so, read on. If you agree that Happiness is in your mind, read on still. :) Happiness isn't an "if this, then that" deal. As long as one continues to think that they need "this" (having, doing) to have "that" (Happiness) very likely that one isn't going to be truly happy. And what is the reason? In the IFTT (If This Then That) thinking, happiness is placed outside of oneself. And is actually

Most people live their lives in fear! What if I do not have enough money to take care of myself in the future? What if my loved ones need money? What if I fall ill? What if there is none to take care of me when I am old and infirm? What if I am alone? What if, this, what if that? The list goes on! And for some, this is further reiterated by instances of others who have had situations befall them that have caused them misery. And this means that people choose to live constantl

"We can will ourselves to act, but we cannot will ourselves to will" said Albert Einstein. "So, control is largely an illusion," says Robert Lanza. Equating or conflating control with willpower in the context of achieving set objectives might be relevant. Many feel that while they "want" to achieve, they sometimes lack the willpower, discipline, dedication, or at the extreme, "luck" to achieve their objectives. Let's take a look at how true this is! Let's start with some ques