To set the background, let me mention a couple of very common examples: There are a few things that I have heard people say often: My husband or wife (could be boss too) does not understand me. S/he has never ever listened to me. S/he did this then, and then again, she did this at this time etc. Whatever I try, s/he has never ever understood what it means to me, and that I expect something else.” I know that s/he will not understand me. It has always been like that with this

A statement made and a question posed to me, a while ago, have stayed with me ever since are: “Happiness and Health, are your birthright; suffering is optional!” “Do you want to be right, or have a healthy relationship?” And I keep this at the forefront of my thinking all the time – and have had a reasonable degree of success. And what does all this have with “learning the lesson and forgetting the pain?” might be the question you have right now – and so, let me get to the re