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Outraged? Upset? Go within for answers.

If one feels outraged, upset, sad or disappointed about something – they think the "reasons" (or justifications or excuses) are in the events that caused them to be outraged. And along with the outrage, upset, disappointment, most take the license to be nasty, angry and vengeful of the "perpetrators." And they castigate, condemn and vent their ire rather vociferously in most cases. And when the supposed outrage is due to an event they come to know of from the media, it's most times based on second, third, fourth and multiple hand information or in today's world, just plain fiction even!

Regardless of fact or fiction, greater the outrage one feels, the more they have things within to work out. Sounds absolutely ridiculous to many, I'm sure. However, that's the truth. Anything that I get upset about, is a reflection of something within that I don't like about myself.

What? How can that be? This just doesn’t make sense might be the thought! Anything that upsets me gives me priceless information about myself – that is the truth! And how is that so?

In what might appear to be "far out in La-la land" sort of way, if it’s a part of your life, then it's meant to be for your growth. And while considering a really tough, and sometimes uncomfortably painful experience, the question might be, "How can such a thing be for my learning? I am blameless and don't deserve this. This is so unfair!" If so, all the more reason to go within - for the answers are there.

Take anything that has caused you to be outraged in the recent past. Find out exactly what causes the outrage. Asking these questions repeatedly, "What about this actually upsets me? What do I expect that I'm not getting?" will help get to the core of what one expects. Those questions in a cycle will help you get to what you really expect, and why!

And once you get that, ask yourself, “Where in my life, am I behaving similar to the behaviour that I find outrageous?” Note: It might not be a direct fit and aligned to the behaviour that you find abhorrent. It will be similar though and might require some thinking to find the link.

And what does one do when they find the answers? And what if they can't find the link? The question is, are they really willing to find the link?

A couple of examples from my life helped me understand that my outrage is a reflection of aspects of myself that I do not like! Maybe you could draw parallels from those in your own life?

Example 1: I used to get upset (still do sometimes) about people who don't follow traffic rules. Upon self-inquiry (questions mentioned in Part 2 of 5,) I found I was upset because people were selfish and inconsiderate of others. So, I asked myself, where am I selfish or inconsiderate of others? I realised that I took loved ones for granted - I was being inconsiderate of them. This awareness helped me become more considerate of loved ones. And there is a long way to go yet!

Example 2: News of children, and others who aren't strong enough, being ill-treated, abused, being raped, etc. used to bring about extreme anger and an almost visceral rage to punish the perpetrators. Upon self-inquiry, I learn that in my own way, I was abusive and forcing my views and ideas on those who were not as aware or grown, or had a different value system. A very dear friend once told me, “it's impossible to have a debate with you because you're more intelligent and well-read." Upon reflection, and intentionally using strong language, I was being abusive, ill-treating, and in a roundabout way, forcing myself and my ideas on someone who felt they couldn't defend themselves. And this, to my very dear friend, whom I loved dearly and I knew he loved me as dearly! Appalling behaviour, right?

More such instances that I introspected upon made me think - I then promised that I will be more aware and be more considerate. Maybe some will think I'm sensationalist and too rigorous and utopian in my approach. The truth I understood is that whatever upsets me, the reasons are within and a reflector for my growth. The moment I accept and start working on that, I grow!

And how can one use all this for their own growth?

Hopefully, you will have found some answers that help find what is within that causes the outage. If you have not, it only means that you have not searched enough. This is THE TRUTH.