Being Fair helps - BIG TIME!
I came across this very interesting talk by Marco Alvera on TED. I suggest that you may want to consider taking the 14.07 minutes to watch this talk and the extra 2.25 minutes to watch the embedded video on how fairness sand kindness are hardwired into our psyche. Especially so, if you are a business executive, owner, entrepreneur, parent, or just a good old member of society - basically, anyone and everyone will benefit from watching it.
Being fair is paramount for all relationships - and might even define what makes a person human! And it is more applicable in all aspects of life - at home, work, sports, society and not just for individuals - for companies and organizations. Fairness is hardwired into our psyche - as multiple experiments with children have shown. One such experiment is referred to in this talk. It is also mentioned in another of my articles - True Power vs. Forced Falsehood
This is the video of how being fair and kind, is hardwired into our psyche!
A quote that I keep stating repeatedly is Will Durant's summation of Aristotle's work on Excellence. It is a very profound and telling statement. That, to me, defines the core what makes one a good person. For those who might not readily recall, here it is:
“Excellence is an art won by training and habituation. We do not act rightly because we have virtue or excellence, but we rather have those because we have acted rightly. We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act but a habit.”
My personal choice is to substitute "appropriately" instead of "rightly." Given that Aristotle would have written in Greek, the appropriate word probably would have probably been appropriate. Incidentally, I have all along been under the impression that this was a translation of Aristotle's words in Greek. And in searching for the original words, came to realise that this is actually Will Durant's summation of Aristotle's words on the subject. And in the research, I came across another quote, which I have been using my own version of - as Ralph Keyes wrote, “Clever lines routinely travel from obscure mouths to prominent ones.” (I have one such experience in my own life - where my words are better received when I attribute it to a better known public figure!)
Regardless of the origin of the quote, the import and meaning are what make it important. Acting appropriately is most important. To me, Integrity is the most important and powerful of all characteristics that a human being ought to demonstrate at all times. Sanskrit probably is a lot more capable in being able to convey some things - for example, the word "Dharma"and "Dharmic" probably do not have an equivalent in other languages (at least not that I am aware of - and happy to learn from anyone who knows more about this)
Integrity to me has the following definition:
Appropriate behaviour, in the appropriate manner, at the appropriate time, with the appropriate beings (including humans) that ensure the greatest benefit for the greatest number of "dharmic" beings!
And so, being "dharmic" and integrous means that one MUST be fair, always! it is impossible to be dharmic and integrous without being fair. And in that sense, to me, integrity is more important than honesty. Integrity has inbuilt in it, appropriateness. Honesty is binary and might not always be appropriate. And to clarify the reason for that statement: when someone prepares something to eat and they ask, "Do you like it?" And if one does not like it, the honest answer would be "No!" However, and appropriate answer would be "Yes!" even though it is not the truth!
And here again, another quote from Aristotle (yes, again!) probably says it well:
At his best, man is the noblest of all animals; separated from law and justice he is the worst.
Here again, I choose to construe the "law and justice" as being integrous and appropriate, rather than just what the words convey. Sometimes, language is extremely limited and it is very difficult to convey one's though