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Pride Vs. Arrogance

January 7, 2018

 

A chapter from the book that I am working on (yes, that project is still on!) deals with various emotions and levels of consciousness. And under the chapter titled "The obstacles to happiness" is a section on Arrogance.


Arrogance has many synonyms - haughtiness, conceit, hubris, self-importance, egotism, sense of superiority; pomposity, high-handedness, swagger, boasting, bumptiousness, bluster, condescension, disdain, contempt, imperiousness; pride, vanity, immodesty; loftiness, lordliness, snobbishness, snobbery, superciliousness, smugness; pretension, pretentiousness, affectation; scorn, mocking, sneering, scoffing; presumption, insolence, big-headedness, etc.

 

While Pride is normally considered a synonym for Arrogance, it is probably different.  “Pride” which could be the happiness that comes from achievement – and feeling good about oneself, and yet thinking well of others. Arrogance is pride, combined with thinking less than, or ill of others. When one feels happy with their achievement and also thinks less of others, then it is not useful. 


I learnt this  a while ago, and aim to practice this in my living: "Communication is the result that it gets!" So, if anyone feels that I was being arrogant or proud, then that was certainly the truth as far as they are concerned. And it is up to me, to ensure that behave in a responsible, respectful manner henceforth.

 

Many a time, many people think therefore that one should always be self-deprecative which they consider the opposite of arrogance and hence that is practiced as thinking less of oneself. Yes, it certainly is true that it's not useful to think less of others, whilst thinking highly of oneself. Similarly, it is also not useful to think less of oneself. Like they say, charity begins at home. So, the ideal approach would be to think well of oneself AND of others. (More on this can be found in another article: Always be respectful - of self and others

 

 

And what prompted this thought about Arrogance, Pride and the like? Well, there as an incident involving a group of motorcyclists in Bangalore. A motorcyclist had knocked over and caused a fatal accident for a pedestrian. What followed was mindless and inexplicable at first - a mob gathered and started assaulting all bikers in the vicinity. A group of motorcyclists who had nothing to do with the incident were assaulted, their bikes vandalised and damaged. The key aspect was that all the motorcyclists who were assaulted were the ones riding "big" bikes and who were very distinguishable given all the riding gear and the paraphernalia associated with biking that they had to show for it.

 

To some, this might seem like mob mentality - and when the layers of reasons are peeled, a completely different understanding might dawn. The fact is that the crowd or mob assaulted only those riding big bikes, and those who were clearly the "leisure motorcyclists." And all of the bikes were expensive bikes beyond the reach of most in India. And again, this might be dismissed as the angry reaction of the "have-nots" towards the "haves" and given a chance, taking out their anger on them. Whilst there might be some truth in this the real reasons are possibly different.

 

Being a motorcyclist myself, I have ridden a fair bit, although not as much as some others. Some traits that are noticed in a small minority of those riding the big bikes is the aspect of "arrogance" rather than pride. For example, when a lay person who sees a big bike they have not seen before, comes over and asks some questions out of curiosity, the responses are full of arrogance, and condescension. For ex