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Is a hard reset for life, possible? Yes it is!

This article has been in the works for the past 3 months or so. And has undergone multiple edits, for a change.

I had some trouble with my phone some time ago. This problem was to be rectified by doing a “hard reset” – which required wiping the “cache” and “data” on the phone, and as it is called, “reset phone to factory settings.” I did the factory reset, and the phone started working properly again!

And this was when my sister asked me, “Is a hard reset for life possible?” And she added, “If only it was so simple to rectify situations in life, like restoring to factory settings on a phone!” I responded, rather cheekily, “Yes, of course it is. And for that, one needs to forget the pain from the past, and focus on and live in the present.”

I said that and let it go. And then I had a video chat with my nephew who lives in the USA (son of the sister who asked me this question.) And when he was told this, he said, “Well, that could be the topic for your next article.” And so, this article came into being!

And then came the understanding! That between thinking about and reliving the past (anger, regret, sadness, grief and so on,) and worrying about the future (worry, fear and desire and so on,) most people forget to live in the present moment.

A person is the sum total of their life’s experiences. There are events, and then there are experiences. While events take place, each person’s experience of these events could be extremely different. And how each person internalizes their experiences could have a big effect on how their life turns out to be. And this in turn affects how each person forms beliefs, and values.

I had an exchange with a client of mine. During this session, I mentioned to my client, “I am not playing with words here. And words are important. Words are how we think. And words are formed from language. The language and the expressions that a person uses to think, creates their version of their experiences.”

And I added, even a person who is born deaf (and therefore mute) probably thinks using sign language, which is their language and medium of communication. Languages and cultures could be different and sometimes, these differences in languages and cultures could also affect how people think, and form versions of their experiences.

There is an event that takes place. And each person has their own experience from the event. And why is that? That is because the emotions associated with each event creates the unique experience for the individual. And what are emotions?

What exactly are emotions?

Emotion is the link between biology and behaviour, says Dr. Alan Watkins, in his book “Coherence”. He further goes on to state that “e-motion” is actually “energy in motion.”

Research (Daniel Goleman and The Dalai Lama, 2004) shows that there are 34,000 different physiological sensations (Feelings) that can be experienced in the human body. And language is limited. With the use of words and phrases, these “feelings” can be described. However, it has also been found that most people can at best label 12 of the most common feelings or emotions that they experience in their bodies!

Dr. Watkins goes on further to list out 76 POSITIVE (from Affectionate to Warm Hearted) and 80 NEGATIVE emotions (from Angry to Worried) that we COULD be aware of. Dr.Watkins says that an individual’s ability to distinguish between various emotions with a greater awareness and clarity will enable them to connect more effectively with themselves and with those around. For example, under the broad umbrella of “sad” could be grief, worry, dejected, hopeless, etc. And under the “happy” umbrella could be finer sub-divisions like excited, jolly, joyful, amused etc.